"Am I Harming My Family?"
It takes strength to admit you are abusing your partner. But if you really want to change, you can. Violence is learned behaviour – the good news is that you can unlearn it.
You will only be successful if you can do the following:
- Accept responsibility for the abuse.
- You cannot blame your actions on your partner. Nor on drink, drugs, stress or employment.
- Realise that you have a choice. You choose to be violent or abusive,
and you can choose not to be. - Accept the abuse comes from your desire to control your partner. Understand the ways you control her and why you behave like this.
- Accept your partner has a right to live her own life without being dominated and controlled.
- Seek help from professionals.